Let's give the men another turn today. Today's questions are for Tom and then one for Cal. These two men are very much alike. They may not be close in age, but in the belief that a firm hand is how to keep your wife safe and protected they are side by side.
For Tom: do you think Cassie will ever learn to mind you?
I think she minds me about as well as she can. I can’t say I would want much to change. I love her free spirit. I definitely want her safe, but I’d hate to see her sitting in front of a TV sixteen hours a day and doing nothing. She’s perfect the way she is.
What concerns you most about Cassie and her pranks? Did you ever find one of her pranks truly funny, yet punished her anyway?
Many of her pranks are funny and I don’t mind them one bit as long as they’re safe. But that doesn’t mean she isn’t going to get her bottom warmed over them. She may enjoy them, but she’ll still have to pay the consequence.
Hey Tom, do you ever think Cassie needs to spank you?
To give you a concise answer, no. I’m guessing you are not in a domestic discipline relationship. For the most part there is one HOH and that's usually, but certainly not always, the man. Completely fair or not, that’s the way it is. I think Cassie would agree with me, but I’ll let her answer for herself.
No! I would not want to spank Tom – not that I haven’t threatened at times. Just the ides makes me feel squeamish. He is my husband and my protector. I love the balance we have and I don’t want it to change.
For Cal, when did you find out your parents were in a spanking relationship and how did you find out? What was your reaction?
I don’t remember ‘finding out’, I just knew. My father is a great man. He is the head of our family and that was never questioned. He is firm, kind, loving and understanding. His most common discipline tool when we boys were growing up was talking with us. It really worked. But there were times when things went too far and we were taken to the woodshed – yes, we actually had one. He kept a paddle out there and would occasionally use his belt. As I grew up through comments, teasing and certain looks, I realized that not only we four boys, but my mother was also included under this umbrella of love and discipline. Knowing how much my father loved us all, especially my mother, it seemed natural and right to me.
In my opinion, Lane and the twins didn’t see the inside of the woodshed nearly enough.