Sunday, June 15, 2014

M is for marriage (not mine)

 I’m married and I’m happy about that. But I’m even happier that my son is married. Many people were against my son’s marriage and for the life of me I could never understand why? He picked someone intelligent, funny, hard working, and good looking. They dated for over nine years and moved to New York – my son’s life long dream, after he graduated from college. I’m so glad he had someone, my boy was raised in a small southern town, and didn’t have to learn to the big city and all it’s ways all by himself. They are so good for each other, they care and love one another so much – why are so many people against them simply because they are both men? I don’t get it.

I am pleased to see that the vast majority in blogland don’t hold these feelings.  Maybe it’s because many of us feel we are hiding a secret of our own and we know how it feels to be looked down on and ridiculed just for being who we were born to be. Do you have strong feelings one way or the other?

24 comments:

  1. Hey PK...I have strong feelings that love is too precious to through away and we can't control who we love. Your sons are so very lucky to have found each other.

    Hugs and Blessings...
    Cat

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    1. They are lucky, they are happy, healthy and live in a place that accepts them.

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  2. You are such an awesome mom! You could have done a blog post on motherhood and taught us all something

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    1. Thanks Blondie, I've written several post on having gay children over at New Beginning. He's the most wonderful son in the world - and he has great taste in men!

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  3. PK,
    marriage is a job for life, for both partners.
    Love and warm hugs,
    Paul.

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  4. love the post, PK :) very sweet

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  5. PK, what a lovely, sweet post. Your son and SIL are very blessed to have found each other. I'm with Cat, love is too precious :)

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. Roz, they met when my son was only 16, my SIL was much older - worried me for a time. But I watched carefully and realized they were very good for one another.

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  6. I think love is LOVE! I am so happy that many people think as we do and embrace everyone's love without judgement!

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    1. Minelle, it's not perfect, but slowly but surely people are coming around.

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  7. Love knows no boundaries - why should anyone be excluded.

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  8. So sweet. I don't understand why people get so worked up (and hostile and ugly) over this issue. Good for them and you.

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    1. I'm glad they chose to live in NYC rather than Mississippi - much more tolerant and safer for them.

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  9. I have strong feelings over this matter but I remember how much progress has been made in the past 15 years and hold hope that much more will be made. You're lucky to have such a wonderful son and son-in-law.

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    1. Thanks, I really am lucky and they are lucky they weren't born fifty years ago.

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  10. I love the fact that people love each other. That they take care for each other. That they close enough to be intimate with each other. And it really, really doesn't matter if the combination is boy - boy, girl - girl or boy -girl.

    And it is really nobodies business who you love anyway, except your partner. You are lucky with your son. Be proud of him.

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    1. Both my kids are my pride and joy, as well as my SIL. I speak of them often and I really think my pride shows through.

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  11. I am so proud that you very publicly support and love your son and son-in-law. Here in the land of Oz we still revile anyone who does not meet the norm; homophobia, racism, sexism, and intolerance are celebrated by an ignorant, drunken population hellbent on consuming more and more.

    Your great love is a lesson that I hope we can all follow and embrace

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    1. I hope you see some changes there soon, sounds like you are in the minority. My son shared the fact that he was gay with me when he was fourteen. My only worry was that someone would hurt him. But he has never experienced any problems along those lines.

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  12. Life is too short to not grab love any way shape or form. I think your son is very lucky. J

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    1. Jackie, You are so right! I think I am the lucky one to have these great men in my life.

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